Sociophobia is an irrational fear, an uncontrolled fear of any social actions (for example, speaking to the public) or a fear of actions that are accompanied by increased attention from strangers (outsiders) (for example, the inability to do anything when someone else is watching).
Sociophobia is also called social anxiety disorder. It is expressed in uncontrolled fear, which completely paralyzes the will of the individual and complicates his social interaction. Social phobia is always characterized by a situational cause that triggers a whole range of manifestations, which sometimes can be indistinguishable from panic attacks.
Sociophobia causes
Psychologists believe that the causes of sociophobia are inextricably linked with self-doubt and are hidden deep in the human subconscious. A person affected by this phobia is quite dependent on the assessment of his society, on the opinion of him and his actions by others. It is believed that the real causes of this phobia originate from childhood. Parents, other significant adults, educators, teachers, quite often, in their practice, use a comparative assessment of personality behavior in a negative manner. Any actions that you don’t like are accompanied by phrases: don’t roar like a girl, you say when they ask, but before that, be quiet etc. Subsequently, the subconscious of children reinforces this behavior, which leads to manifestations of low self-esteem in the adult state. And low self-esteem can lead to sociophobia in the future.
Another reason can be considered a long stay of a person in a stressful state or prolonged emotional stress associated, for example, with work.
Sociophobia can also develop under the influence of a single stressful situation, for example, a natural cataclysm, car accident, accident, terrorist attack, etc.
Quite often, social phobia can be the primary pathology in subjects who are prone to depressive states, in drug-addicted people or addicted to alcohol.
People suffering from social phobia just want to make a good pleasant impression on others. However, at the same time, such people are very worried, worried and doubt themselves and their abilities. Trying to do everything perfectly, they expect praise, but at the same time, they are very afraid of the consequences that will entail the evaluation of their actions.
People with sociophobia shy away from situations in which they can be rejected. They become a kind of hostage to their own image. Sociophobes try to please everyone around only in order to earn their approval, attention, location and interest. They just want to feel better and better.
There is another kind of sociophobia, behaving in a team rather relaxed, trying by different methods to attract attention. They do this in order to create a positive image for themselves. Those around them are favorable, until they begin to understand that a huge amount of fears and complexes are hidden behind ostentatious fun. For the person suffering from sociophobia, this behavior is a kind of attempt to hide his anxiety.
The main cause of nervousness and anxiety of sociophobes is their belief that others think negatively of them. Sociophobe carefully plans all his public actions, so as not to get into a mess, not to seem stupid, ugly, weak. Although in fact there is absolutely no reason for this. It is impossible to convince a person suffering from sociophobia that his natural behavior does not cause any negative impression.
Basically, others respond to such a person better and softer than he thinks about himself. However, any individual perceives the surrounding reality through the prism of himself and his own ideas, thoughts. There is no point in convincing him otherwise. Therefore, it is very difficult for a social phobia to give compliments, and he should accept them.
Many sociophobes do not even suspect that they have such a phobia, since they are confident that they are psychologically healthy.
As a rule, problems such as fear of communication with others arise in the teenage period. This is due to the fact that the puberty in the life of a teenager is quite difficult and important for him. Indeed, in this period there is a transition from a childhood state to an adult. This period is characterized by aggravation of feelings. Therefore, if there is even the slightest uncertainty or shyness, transitional age can strengthen them or transform into sociophobia. The more negative emotions will be in the puberty, the greater the risk for sociophobia.
Social phobia symptoms
Only a doctor can make a diagnosis of social phobia. However, there are a number of common symptoms. Unconscious fear arising in a public place when meeting people. In this case, the face turns red, there is a rapid heartbeat, trembling in the limbs, increased sweating. The manifestations of this phobia are very reminiscent of panic attacks . However, sociophobia is not characterized by paroxysmal, but prolonged and unreasonable states of anxiety, nervousness, irritability.
Often sick, sociophobia itself is perceived as fear. It is expressed by a refusal to solve problems related to society and communication. For example, refusal of medical care, fear of visiting restaurants or shops, social phobia in a child is expressed in fear of speaking in class, reading aloud, etc.
Suffering from sociophobia, they are susceptible to an unfounded fear of being negatively evaluated by others about the forced interaction with them. Anxiety, embarrassment, fear, shyness - these are the main conditions that accompany sociophobia.
Situations that provoke fear can be: acquaintances, talking on the phone, interacting with the leader, receiving visitors, any actions performed in the presence of others, public speaking.
Sociophobia in a child can manifest itself in a refusal to attend school. So, all the symptoms can be divided into three groups: cognitive, behavioral and physiological.
The first group includes the horror that people experience from evaluating others. Therefore, sociophobes are almost always focused on themselves, on how they look from the side and how they behave. They usually make excessive demands on themselves.
People prone to sociophobia are trying their best to make a pleasant impression on themselves around, but at the same time, they are confident in their hearts that they will not be able to do this. People suffering from such a phobia can scroll many times in their head all possible scenarios for the further development of a situation that provokes anxiety, while analyzing what and where they could do wrong. Such thoughts can be intrusive and harass the individual for several weeks after a stressful situation.
Sociophobes are characterized by inadequate opinions about themselves, about their potential. They are more likely to see themselves on the negative side. There is also information that the memory of sociophobes holds more negative memories, while healthy people tend to forget all the bad.
The second group includes the avoidance of any contacts with people around, parties and dates. They are afraid to talk to strangers, visit bars, cafes, canteens, etc. Sociophobes are careful not to look into the eyes of the interlocutor, i.e. social phobia is characterized by avoidance behavior.
From the physiology side, excessive sweating, redness of the face, changes in the heart rhythm, tears, difficulty in breathing, nausea, tremor of the extremities are observed. Gait disturbances are also possible, especially when a person passes a group of people. The result of such manifestations among sociophobes will be even greater anxiety.
Certain signs of sociophobia are also distinguished. Avoiding behavior, taking psychotropic or alcoholic drugs are the main signs of sociophobia. Signs of sociophobia are conditionally divided into mental and autonomic. Mental include avoidance, fear, shyness, low self-esteem, etc. Physiological symptoms include vegetative signs.
Sociophobia treatment
Conventionally, the treatment methods for this phobia can be divided into 4 groups: individual psychotherapy, medication, group therapy, self-help or book treatment, online consultations, etc.
However, behavioral therapy is considered the main treatment method giving the highest percentage of positive results. The essence of behavioral therapy is the formation of sociophobic new mental attitudes during the assessment of situations that cause anxiety, and relief from physical symptoms. The main acquisitions after cognitive therapy can be considered behavioral skills in various social situations, anxiety can pass on its own, a person behaves calmer in social situations, self-learning skills.
Drug treatment is used in cases of patients refusing psychotherapeutic treatment. However, the effectiveness of medicines is quite limited and is mainly aimed at eliminating symptoms such as stress and anxiety.
Drug therapy involves the use of drugs from groups such as antidepressants, beta-blockers and benzodiazepines.
There are other methods, trainings and ways to get rid of this phobia. For example, the method of positive visualization, which consists in presenting a situation that provokes anxiety and nervousness, excitement, feelings of fear and living this situation with a positive attitude.
Also, J. Biom developed a training to overcome sociophobia, which consists in the possibility of more impartial consideration of situations of interaction with society, to trace their irrational judgments and ideas, to develop more effective ways of interacting with the environment. Training to overcome sociophobia is based on a variety of exercises that simulate various situations in everyday life. Many people using training techniques have managed to significantly improve their condition.
Sociophobia test
Today, quite a few methods have been developed that determine the presence of sociophobia. For example, a test for social phobia. Its main purpose is to assess the level of anxiety that occurs under the influence of various social situations. This test consists in the description of 24 situations. For each of the situations, you need to determine the level of anxiety. All answers are given for a period that is equal to the past week. Those. if a person last week experienced the described situation, then he gives an answer about the experienced anxiety. If such a situation did not happen to him last week, then he gives an answer about his expected behavior, whether he will feel anxiety in this situation or not, if so, how much, etc.
The level of anxiety is determined using the four point system, where zero is the absence of anxiety, one is mild anxiety, two is moderate, and three is intense. Then the level of avoidance of such situations is estimated using a scale where zero is never, 1 is sometimes, 2 is often and 3 is constant. After passing the test, the total result for all 24 situations is calculated. There should be two positions, one is the degree of avoidance, and the second is the degree of anxiety. Then two indicators add up. Based on the result, we can judge the presence and severity of sociophobia.
This test was developed by a well-known researcher and psychologist M. Leibovich. This test is considered fairly objective and with great accuracy determines the presence of this phobia.
I’m 26, before calling someone, often before the usual call, I either go to where I am alone or it’s easier for me to write an SMS to a person, it’s easier for me to write than to talk, I always write SMS with my boss, although I know that I don’t like it, I can’t look into the eyes when I listen or answer something, I try to disconnect and look at the bridge of the nose. I can endure a skirmish or abuse, I experience a complete set up to tears. I have no friends, although sometimes I really want to. But then again, on a business trip, I’m usually cheerful and sociable, sometimes deliberately amusing people with tomfoolery. If someone reacts poorly, then from now on I’m like a hedgehog, stabbing and aggressive, although then I worry about it. A lot of everything. Do not describe.
Eugene, I have exactly the same situation. I’m 26 years old. It seems that sometimes I can control myself in some places, but I can’t hold back for a long time. Many things.)
Yes, the team is very accurate. With friends I behave very freely. But when I go to a stop this is a completely different mood, a completely different one)
Ever since adolescence I felt that it is difficult for me to communicate with people. I wonder how I was able to make friends in the 11th grade. When I read this now, it seems that all this is very obvious, although it took me more than two years to finally stop deceiving myself, write down everything that excites me in the notebook and identify the main symptoms from there. Horror
I am 12 years old, but since childhood I am afraid to meet and perform. It’s always important for me that others will think of me. At events without my friends, I feel insecure and superfluous.
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Good day. I am 18 years old. My problem is that I cannot communicate normally. The worst thing for me is talking to someone when someone else is nearby. Even with relatives, for me to pick up the phone is an impossible task. I am constantly worried about what others will think of me. It constantly seems that they treat me with charity, I constantly see evil looks in my direction. They constantly tell me that I walk like a robot, and because of this I get even more nervous. And when I go to crowded places, I just imagine how my walk and I look wretched. I never start a conversation first. And when someone talks to me, I can say a maximum of a couple of words in response and that’s it. Even when I want to chat with this person, I just never know what to tell him. And even after these few words that I manage to squeeze out of myself, I carefully observe how a person will react to this. How to overcome this?
I still have a buddy) only when they call me on the phone, I calm down
Good day. I am a teenager. I constantly think about other people, I constantly want to do something good, pleasant and memorable to others. I do not deny that I depend on their opinion. I am not afraid of large companies, but I am constantly silent, being in them, and always some kind of garbage. I was often called the “gray mouse” in the company, and in the classroom I was considered an outcast, because I always looked at everyone and was silent. I am considered “hypocritical and duplicitous” because I want to be better for everyone. I want to give good to people: I help, listen, somewhere I give at least insignificant, but advice.
A lot of people turn away from me because I speak a little. I do not know how to look for topics for conversation. And recently I began to notice that if I meet a person, then after the first meeting, he loses interest. He is just leaving. He is no longer interested in talking. Can I assume that I am a sociophobe? Will I be able to overcome my fear of communication with age? (By the way, when I go on stage, I am shaken, in the literal sense. I often play because I study at a music college. And when I stand and wait for my turn, I’m calm. But as soon as I see the commission, then my nerves immediately lose. My legs and arms begin to shake. I can’t control myself.)
I would be very grateful if you answer. Thank!
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I work as a leader, subordinate to 30 people. Recently, I began to notice that I do not want to communicate with anyone, even with relatives. At work, only situational communication on the case. No personal contact. I come home and disconnect from the world. I don’t open the door for anyone and do not let me into the house. I answer the phone forcedly. Long conversations, even with my mother, make me very burdensome, I feel exhausted after them.
What is going on with me?
Hello, Inga. Your condition is very close to burnout. A person who constantly has to contact with society, listen to complaints and solve problems of other people, is gradually depleted of physical and psychological resources. He experiences regular stress, which makes him apathetic and withdrawn. A tired body includes a defensive reaction, and emotional burnout occurs.
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Accurately described, thank you for the article. I have a fear of speaking to the public. And always very interested in the opinions of others. And I think a lot about the negative, but I will change, I will succeed.