How do men like it? The desire to please men is inherent in every woman, but there is a difference in who should be liked. There is a huge difference between how to attract the attention of a long-time acquaintance and how men like you at first glance, if you first see each other. Naturally, the first thing that attention will be paid when meeting and any contact of two people is appearance. It is she who creates the first impression, attracts attention with a long acquaintance and creates a favorable background and desire to interact. Well, or, in extreme cases, a well-groomed exterior will not scare men away and will provide an opportunity to show unique personal qualities.
How men like it - psychology
For an attractive appearance, you need to maintain your body in good shape and good shape. Blush, endurance, posture are read by the man subconsciously and signal that this woman will give birth to healthy children. Pay attention to the condition of the skin and hair, take care of a neat manicure and softness of the skin of the hands.
Next, it’s worth working on an image that includes both external and behavioral manifestations. Men usually prefer feminine girls, and those who choose a unisex style or want a men's wardrobe, short haircuts are more likely to be perceived as comrades or even competitors. The more you look different from men, the more you will be noticed by them. Long hair, dresses and skirts, bright colors, ringing jewelry - all these are invariable attributes of femininity. The main thing here is not to overdo it and not become like a Christmas tree. Makeup is better to choose in natural, natural shades, let it be as inconspicuous as possible.
A feminine manifestation in behavior should radiate gentleness, friendliness and happiness. It is important to try not to lose your sense of humor, both in light everyday situations, and in the presence of problems, and not complicate any incomprehensible situations of relationships. Men have quite a few problems, and when a woman invents them and makes them solve them, he ceases to feel lightness and tries to disappear. However, this does not mean that you need to solve all problems yourself, the main thing is simply not to exaggerate and wind up yourself, but asking for adequate help is very useful. This gives the man the opportunity to take care of you and to show their strengths. Being near the Amazon, the man does not feel his need and does not know how else he can show interest, such a woman is easier to leave with her affairs.
Try to enjoy everything that a man presents to you - time, a compliment, help with work, a return nod of your head, a long conversation, a diamond ring.
Appearance is important only when deciding how to please men at first sight, then exclusively personal and psychological moments come into play. Of course, he will continue to admire your beauty in a year, but if there is nothing to talk about or the emotional comfort of a man suffers, then this conversation will not last longer than an hour.
Beauty rarely took first place in the hierarchy of significant female qualities in men. The first places were always occupied by the mind and caring, and if at a young age the mind came first in combination with attractiveness, then for men over forty, beauty does not appear at all as an important quality, it is replaced by care and only a few are interested in the mind.
To please a man, a woman must be tactful and tolerant in any matter. Men's self-esteem is quite sensitive to criticism, even if they do not show it, so any taunts and remarks, a demonstration of how to do something and comparisons with others are not in their favor can stay in his soul for a long time. An overly aggressive woman immediately begins to be perceived by a man as a rival, and not as a companion. It is important to remember that aggression can be understood not only as a direct physical impact, but also as a leader, command notes in the voice, excessive exactingness, competing position.
Men expect flexibility and diplomacy from women, both in relation to themselves and others. Trying to stay cute with a man and be rude to others when he is not around can become apparent and the man will be extremely disappointed.
There is one trick based on the fact that we all like the people who like us, therefore, demonstrating her own sympathy and sincere interest, a woman gets the interest of a man.
There are a lot of ways to show a man that you like him, from directly asking questions to enthusiastically listening to his stories with his mouth open.
There may be a false sense of preference by men for quiet, soft and submissive women who are always reliable and predictable. With such women it’s calm and reliable, but boring, it’s impossible to fall in love with such women, they can be thankful. Therefore, to remain yourself with your unique oddities, tantrums from scratch and crying because of a withered bouquet will be just what will set you apart from a number of other women. The manifestation of dissatisfaction, the voicing of their own position with the argumentation of disagreement makes men strive for better achievements, develop, and in the end they like such women. Competent criticism promotes growth and those who are able to use these weapons are often called muses.
The main means to arouse a sincere and deep interest of a man is to remain himself as much as possible and at the same time notice, react sincerely (thank for the pleasant, indicate dissatisfaction) and of course behave in such a way as not to offend.
How to make it clear to a man that he likes
Traditional social roles play an active role in gender-role interaction for men, so many women, fearing to seem intrusive or misunderstood, are afraid to be active. And more and more often the question arises, how to show a man that you like him with hints and glances.
Most often, men perfectly notice that they are cute to a girl, but if in doubt, you can finally convince him of this with the help of flirting. It is worth remembering that flirting is an easy, fun game in which participants enjoy at the moment, without reference to the result. Accordingly, flirting with a man must be original and unobtrusive, trying to get more pleasure herself. Constantly pursuing him with his attention in improper situations can lead to the fact that he will soon begin to break down. Of the flirting techniques, it is best to use non-verbal signal methods, when you can lean in the direction of the interlocutor or mirror his pose. It always works better than short skirts and shooting eyes, in addition, it is not so persistent and can be interpreted as you like.
If you have known each other for a long time and there is no critical situation when you lose sight of this person in an hour, then you can start making friends. For this, general classes, joint pastime are perfect. Carefully study the interests of a handsome man and try to find something similar among your hobbies, then a lot of common topics for conversation will automatically appear, and the person sharing our hobbies will become more attractive.
If you have nothing in common, then you can ask the man to tell about his hobby or teach you what he can do (even if it will be winter fishing). The main thing is to show maximum interest, since the questions asked for a check can be annoying, but men love to be in the role of a teacher and an enlightening guru. At such moments, it is worth listening to it with bated breath and remember. Choose what will be of interest to you, since the first time your communication will be built around the chosen topic. Such communication, which looks like friendship, in the end gives rise to a very deep interest, which cannot be created either by running on dates or by applying perfect make-up.
Give him compliments, distinguish among others, you can even turn to him for more help - so a man will feel his importance in your life. You may be interested in his opinion on anything, even new shoes, while ignoring the comments of the others.
Men love funny girls, and of the funny ones they prefer those who laugh at their jokes. This is not only a source of good mood, which means that you will associate it with positive emotions, but also a confirmation of its importance and success. Many men are proud of their sense of humor, equate wit with the level of intelligence and social success, respectively, the more external confirmation he will receive, the better. No matter how this image corresponds to reality, even if you just laugh at his humor from the whole country, he will return to you, and will not think about the futility of jokes.
But as always, the most reliable way is direct conversation and sincere recognition. Men may not understand the hints, especially if you overdo it with conspiracy from excessive fear. Recognition does not leave understatement and a suspended situation, it is likely that you will receive reciprocal reciprocity, or at least respect for courage. If the goal is to inform and clarify the situation, rather than falling in love with a man, then openly reporting your feelings will be the best option. Just make sure that this happens in a secluded atmosphere and in a good mood. Whether or not to continue communication will depend on the man himself and his individual reaction.
How to tell a man that you like him
A direct conversation about sympathies is a kind of guarantee that you will be correctly understood and generally heard. The only contraindication for this is the lack of direct acquaintance (when you are only a spectator at his lectures) or when this acquaintance is quite fleeting (you were introduced to each other at a conference of several hundred people). Acquaintance online completely admits the recognition of a man as a great conversationalist or even a compliment of his appearance, but here, perhaps, you should refrain from loving confessions, since you are still not so familiar and not in all situations.
By a direct message, you can immediately find out his attitude towards you and no longer be tormented by the unknown, as well as look at the man’s reaction itself, perhaps some manifestations will make you stop communicating. Someone doesn’t have enough tact and education, and he will start to mock, someone will get lost, and will hesitate with an answer, and someone may start lengthy arguments trying to leave you as a friend. In all of these options, communication is unlikely to continue.
If you try to hint about your location, you can get a lot of misunderstanding or he will take it as your usual style of interaction. No flirting will guarantee that you are understood unambiguously, and if you increase your attention, you can go too far and go into vulgarity or obsession. Direct text removes multiple interpretations and ambiguous situations.
Before you say everything openly, it makes sense to probe the situation and understand if the man has at least sympathy for you. For this, questions about how he communicates with you are perfect. What does he think about the last conversation. You can also disappear for several days, after which to observe his reaction. If you notice that the man is really interested in you and worries, then you can proceed to an open conversation. If, even at the time of clarification of such things, he starts not flattering to express or move away from the answer, then it is better to leave this idea.
Try to make sure that no one interferes with your conversation, neither during nor after - it is better to choose the evening time, when no one needs to rush anywhere. Tell the man honestly how you feel about him and how you would like to see your relationship. Even if your imagination is now drawing a wedding and three children, it’s better to keep silent about it, and talk about the coming months. Of the possible questions after having voiced her position, various variations of interest in his opinion may sound. After she outlined her perception of the situation and took an interest in his look - a step after him. If he does not commit it, it only means that the person is not ready now or does not want to create something in common. It is important to be prepared for such a turn of events.
How men like work
Usually, a man outside the walls of the working room will like it much easier - they look at you like a woman, without taking into account the position, responsibilities and associated interactions caused by the working relationship. It’s difficult for men to work, as they may see you as a competitor or be afraid of gossip from other colleagues.
If you came to a new place of work, then attention and approval should be won by your professional qualities and friendliness. It is important to distribute your attention to all employees, since you are very carefully looking at you now, and you do not know what happened to the participation of the selected man earlier. Flirting, jokes, revealing outfits will be more than inappropriate, and even if they cause male interest, they will be perceived as a frivolous attitude to work, and you may lose it. Trying to attract the attention of a boss as a man is a failure in advance of ideas, even if it seems to you that they are being answered with sympathy. What you can perceive as a personal attitude can be a simple reward for a good job.
How to attract the attention of men? It is necessary to prove yourself as a person, communicating outside the work. For this, social networks, messengers and mail are excellent. In addition, correspondence can be conducted not only in the evening, but also during working hours, discussing various situations, but without taking them out of the boundaries of personal chat. This will create a certain mood, allow you to manifest itself more and will not interfere with your work. Try not to discuss business issues in such correspondence, so as not to completely mix everything together.
If communication takes place and instead of the usual break, you notice that the man remains to correspond with you, then gradually you can translate communication into reality. You can ask to be taken to a cafe for lunch or to share the secrets of a meal brought from home. Communicate when you have time to relax and try to choose fun topics for this. The workspace already contains a lot of tension, and if a man has a person with whom you can relax and have a good laugh, who will also support and understand him in working matters, then the appearance of sympathy is inevitable.